To study the way is to study the self. To study the self is to forget the self. To forget the self is to be enlightened by all things of the universe.
Dogen

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Your Relationship Can Be Restored

 

Being in a relationship is hard. We all want our partners to treat us with love and respect. But so often conflict and misunderstandings create a rift that may seem impossible to bridge.

 

Sometimes the bickering and the disconnect get so bad that doubts come up if the relationship can even survive.

 

Are the arguments getting overwhelming?
 

Is your spouse stonewalling?
 

Are you struggling with distrust or infidelity?
 

Do you have trouble communicating?
 

Is your sex life out of balance or non-existing?
 

Do you crave more emotional and physical intimacy?


Are you struggling with sex addiction?
 

 

There is a way to heal that infuses new hope and connection into your relationship.
 

 

Learn To Communicate in a Non-Confrontational Way

 

What is needed is a way to speak to each other that enables each partner to put themselves into the other person’s shoes.

 

So often what happens is that one person keeps nagging the other. What's behind it is  a sincere desire to connect. The other feels overhwhelmed and smothered and all they can do is withdraw, which sets of more complaints and more withdrawing. It's an endless cycle.

 

I am a certified Imago Relationship Counselor and I know what works. One of the most powerful tools I use is the Imago dialogue, created by Harville Hendrix. During this dialogue I will coach you to express yourself in an honest but sensible way without hurting your partner. Your partner in return will reflect back what you are saying, and you will feel validated and fully understood. This is a tool you will learn to master by yourself and use in your daily life without the help of a therapist. 

 

You will learn a way to communicate that enables you to understand and validate each other in a way you never have, and you will develop compassion and joy in your relationship. It is possible to heal from a rupture like an affair or a communication breakdown. 


 

What You Will Get Out Of It

 

You will learn how to weather conflict

You will learn tools to calm yourself down when the conversation gets heated

 

Identify your own and your parners' triggers 
 

You will understand yourself and your partner better by learning more about why you are the person you are today
 

How to renew and recreate a fulfilling sex life


 

The Conscious Separation

 

If you are at a stage where it feels like the relationship cannot be restored, I can help you process the intense feelings a separation triggers and move you towards a mindful, intentional divorce. A compassionate, amicable way to end a relationship makes it possible for families, and especially their children, to avoid the trauma of divorce

 

Call me now at 917.607.4525 or email me at gerti@gertischoen.net

 

I have worked with many couples from different walks of life including minorities as well as gay and lesbian partners.

 

 

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the 

barriers within yourself that you have built against it. " Rumi