Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. Rumi
I came to couples counseling after my own relationship went through a crisis. My husband and I weren't communicating any more and it seemed like we wanted different things from life.
Everything changed after I started to take a good look at myself. By studying relationship therapy, I realized how many factors come into play when we choose a partner. I learned to take responsibility for how I contributed to our problems, and our relationship changed drastically. Today we are more connected than ever before.
When I work with couples I operate from the premise that couples unconsciously seek each other out in order to heal from past experiences. The areas of conflict are usually those that need healing, and therefore need special care and attention. If there is a strong current of anger and resentment, I focus on strengthening the core inner value of each partner.
Learning to communicate in a non-confrontational way is key
Sometimes being in a relationship is hard. Couples who come to me feel they've done everything they could to make things better. I can show you a way to rekindle the connection and intimacy you crave.
Resolving conflict means putting yourself into your partner’s shoes and learning how to develop compassion and empathy with each other.
So often what happens is that one person tries to do much of the communicating while the other withdraws. Both partners want to connect. Yet one ends up feeling that there is no way to get through, while the other feels overwhelmed and retreats.
There is a way to break through these patterns. I will coach you to express yourself in an honest but sensible way without hurting your partner. You will feel validated and fully understood.
What you will get out of it
- Let go of anger and old hurt by strengthening your core value
- Communicate in a way that deepens your connection
- Create a new relationship vision
- Tools to calm yourself down when the conversation gets heated
- Learn about your triggers and how to navigate them
- Let go of unproductive patterns of relating that stem from the past
- Rekindle romance
- Renew and recreate a fulfilling sex life
If an emotional or sexual affair is interfering, the partners will determine a set amount of time in which the couple commits to working exclusively on their relationship.
Premarital counseling doesn’t mean that something is wrong from the get go. It means that you care so much about the relationship that you want to make sure that misunderstandings or past experiences won’t get in the way of moving forward.
The conscious separation
If you are at a stage where it feels like the relationship cannot be restored, I can help you process the intense feelings a separation triggers and move you towards an intentional divorce. A compassionate way to end a relationship makes it possible for families, and especially their children, to avoid the trauma of divorce.
I have worked with many couples from different walks of life including minorities as well as LGBT couples.
If you are ready to rebuild your life, contact me at email@example.com or call 917.607.4525 for a 10-minute free phone consultation.