INDIVIDUAL PSYCHOTHERAPY
A Peaceful Life...
... is what most of us are striving for. We want to be rid of the stress of daily life and create our own unique way of being in the world. In order to tap into this innate inner peace, we must deal with our feelings and the coping mechanisms that haven't worked for us.
Anxiety
Stress, anxiety and maladaptive fears are among the most common mental health issues in the United States. You are not alone. One in three Americans will develop some form of anxiety disorder during their lives. But anxiety is manageable and can be treated very effectively.
Depression
Lack of motivation, loneliness or hopelessness are some signs of depression. It often results from the losses we had to endure and that are hard to get over. We need to relieve the parts of us that carry a heavy burden so we can feel joyful again.
Anger and Addictions
Symptoms like chronic resentment, explosive anger and addictive or compulsive tendencies may be rooted in traumatic experiences. Trauma results not only from physical, sexual and verbal abuse. It also may be caused by persistent neglect, betrayal and chronically dysfunctional relationships; by constant criticism or ridicule; by being rejected or left out many times; by pervasively anxious parenting; or by single traumatic events like illness, accidents, violence or the loss of a loved one.
By getting in touch with our core value and restoring faith in ourselves, we can overcome traumatic experiences and tap into the innate calm and peacefulness of the self.
Acceptance and Letting Go
Acceptance and letting go is one of the most important while most challenging tasks in life. It is possible to learn how to cope with the many losses that we are confronted with, small and large. Relationships depend on our ability to let go off resentment and overly idealistic expectations. Flowing through life without clinging to what has passed enables us to live more fully in the moment.
If you are ready to rebuild your life, contact me at gerti@gertischoen.net or call 917.607.4525 for a 10-minute free phone consultation.
A Peaceful Life...
... is what most of us are striving for. We want to be rid of the stress of daily life and create our own unique way of being in the world. In order to tap into this innate inner peace, we must deal with our feelings and the coping mechanisms that haven't worked for us.
Anxiety
Stress, anxiety and maladaptive fears are among the most common mental health issues in the United States. You are not alone. One in three Americans will develop some form of anxiety disorder during their lives. But anxiety is manageable and can be treated very effectively.
Depression
Lack of motivation, loneliness or hopelessness are some signs of depression. It often results from the losses we had to endure and that are hard to get over. We need to relieve the parts of us that carry a heavy burden so we can feel joyful again.
Anger and Addictions
Symptoms like chronic resentment, explosive anger and addictive or compulsive tendencies may be rooted in traumatic experiences. Trauma results not only from physical, sexual and verbal abuse. It also may be caused by persistent neglect, betrayal and chronically dysfunctional relationships; by constant criticism or ridicule; by being rejected or left out many times; by pervasively anxious parenting; or by single traumatic events like illness, accidents, violence or the loss of a loved one.
By getting in touch with our core value and restoring faith in ourselves, we can overcome traumatic experiences and tap into the innate calm and peacefulness of the self.
Acceptance and Letting Go
Acceptance and letting go is one of the most important while most challenging tasks in life. It is possible to learn how to cope with the many losses that we are confronted with, small and large. Relationships depend on our ability to let go off resentment and overly idealistic expectations. Flowing through life without clinging to what has passed enables us to live more fully in the moment.
If you are ready to rebuild your life, contact me at gerti@gertischoen.net or call 917.607.4525 for a 10-minute free phone consultation.
COUPLES THERAPY
I came to couples counseling after my own relationship went through a crisis. My husband and I weren't communicating any more, and it seemed like we wanted different things from life.
Everything changed after I started to take a good look at myself. By studying relationship therapy, I realized how many factors come into play when we choose a partner. I learned to take responsibility for how I contributed to our problems, and our relationship changed drastically. Today we are more connected than ever before.
When I work with couples, I focus on strengthening the core inner value of each partner. When we are in touch with our own innate worth and goodness, we don't get triggered easily and we can regulate feelings of anger and resentment effectively.
Learning to communicate in a non-confrontational way is key
Sometimes being in a relationship is hard. Couples who come to me have often done everything they could to make things better. I can show you a way to rekindle the connection and intimacy you crave.
Resolving conflict means putting yourself into your partner’s shoes and learning how to develop compassion and empathy with each other.
So often what happens is that one person tries to do much of the communicating while the other withdraws. Both partners want to connect. Yet one ends up feeling that there is no way to get through, while the other feels overwhelmed and retreats.
There is a way to break through these patterns. I will coach you to express yourself in an honest but sensible way without hurting your partner. You will feel validated and fully understood.
What you will get out of it
- Let go of anger and old hurt by strengthening your core value
- Communicate in a way that deepens your connection
- Create a new relationship vision
- Tools to calm yourself down when the conversation gets heated
- Learn about your triggers and how to navigate them
- Let go of unproductive patterns of relating that stem from the past
- Rekindle romance
- Renew and recreate a fulfilling sex life
Premarital Counseling
Premarital counseling doesn’t mean that something is wrong from the get go. It means that you care so much about the relationship that you want to make sure that misunderstandings or past experiences won’t get in the way of moving forward.
The conscious separation
If you are at a stage where it feels like the relationship cannot be restored, I can help you process the intense feelings a separation triggers and move you towards an intentional divorce. A compassionate way to end a relationship makes it possible for families, and especially their children, to avoid the trauma of divorce.
I have worked with many couples from different walks of life including minorities as well as LGBT couples.
If you are ready to rebuild your life, contact me at gerti@gertischoen.net or call 917.607.4525 for a 10-minute free phone consultation.
I came to couples counseling after my own relationship went through a crisis. My husband and I weren't communicating any more, and it seemed like we wanted different things from life.
Everything changed after I started to take a good look at myself. By studying relationship therapy, I realized how many factors come into play when we choose a partner. I learned to take responsibility for how I contributed to our problems, and our relationship changed drastically. Today we are more connected than ever before.
When I work with couples, I focus on strengthening the core inner value of each partner. When we are in touch with our own innate worth and goodness, we don't get triggered easily and we can regulate feelings of anger and resentment effectively.
Learning to communicate in a non-confrontational way is key
Sometimes being in a relationship is hard. Couples who come to me have often done everything they could to make things better. I can show you a way to rekindle the connection and intimacy you crave.
Resolving conflict means putting yourself into your partner’s shoes and learning how to develop compassion and empathy with each other.
So often what happens is that one person tries to do much of the communicating while the other withdraws. Both partners want to connect. Yet one ends up feeling that there is no way to get through, while the other feels overwhelmed and retreats.
There is a way to break through these patterns. I will coach you to express yourself in an honest but sensible way without hurting your partner. You will feel validated and fully understood.
What you will get out of it
- Let go of anger and old hurt by strengthening your core value
- Communicate in a way that deepens your connection
- Create a new relationship vision
- Tools to calm yourself down when the conversation gets heated
- Learn about your triggers and how to navigate them
- Let go of unproductive patterns of relating that stem from the past
- Rekindle romance
- Renew and recreate a fulfilling sex life
Premarital Counseling
Premarital counseling doesn’t mean that something is wrong from the get go. It means that you care so much about the relationship that you want to make sure that misunderstandings or past experiences won’t get in the way of moving forward.
The conscious separation
If you are at a stage where it feels like the relationship cannot be restored, I can help you process the intense feelings a separation triggers and move you towards an intentional divorce. A compassionate way to end a relationship makes it possible for families, and especially their children, to avoid the trauma of divorce.
I have worked with many couples from different walks of life including minorities as well as LGBT couples.
If you are ready to rebuild your life, contact me at gerti@gertischoen.net or call 917.607.4525 for a 10-minute free phone consultation.