Some time ago, one of my husband’s family members had a bad accident. The family was awesome. Everyone rushed to his bedside, visiting, praying, showing up at the hospital at any odd hour of the day.
But as the weeks dragged on, the most important person at his side was always his wife. It was she who held his hand when he went through depressive states. It was she who advocated for him to the nurses and doctors. And she received the brunt of his anger when the pain got to be too much.
And she felt it. She got more and more tired, more and more depleted. And even though lots of people still checked in with her, she had trouble asking them for help. At the end of the day, she remained the person who picked up most of the slack.
Lots of women have trouble with that. They give and give and can’t help but feel responsible for everything. The might allow others to help, but emotionally are so tied into the other person’s needs that they can’t really relax. They keep worrying even when things seem to be under control.
Ask yourself: Is it hard for you to withdraw your supporting energy from others even just temporarily, and take care of yourself? Do you find yourself becoming the go to person to help others, again and again?
One way to change that is ...